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Post by inger on Apr 30, 2024 10:20:31 GMT -5
Thanks, Matt. I suppose this just a part of growing older. The concept of course is to grow old together gradually, and to help each other along that path. It stinks that I’m still reasonably strong and capable and she’s going downhill so quickly. At least she finally listened to me and is using the oxygen some during the day now, as needed. I think she fears having me die first because she’d have trouble being alone. In some small way (or more) I’ve seen people kind of let themselves go downhill with that thought. I hope the oxygen might mean she’ll feel better and want to walk with it on, but there’s no indication of that. She’s just be on it more and more sedentary… Stay strong my friend, I have some experience being a caregiver to a partner with health issues and it can be demanding. It can be easy to overlook your needs. You seem like a smart guy so I'm sure you have figured that out. Ruthie is lucky to have you in her life and I'm hoping she feels better soon or is able to make adjustments to get the most out of her life. Doctors told me my wife would have to be placed in a care facility, they were wrong. She is still home and doing so much better. Miracles sometimes do happen. I feel a bit guilty having moved her up here, and not moving to a lower elevation. She doesn’t want to leave, she ( and I) both enjoy this strange environment…and since we only move less than two years ago, moving is an expense we can’t bear at the point. Since we don’t want to return to low altitude summer heat, we’d have to move north to a place, likely not in Colorado, where it cool at maybe 3-4,000 feet… At least the oxygen is covered by our Medicare… |
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Post by JEGnj on Apr 30, 2024 12:34:48 GMT -5
I didn't watch, listen, or post and they got shutout. I'm in the clear.
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Post by kaybli on Apr 30, 2024 13:08:49 GMT -5
I didn't watch, listen, or post and they got shutout. I'm in the clear. lol, it'll be nice to have you back, JEG. |
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Post by rizzuto on Apr 30, 2024 14:25:16 GMT -5
Stay strong my friend, I have some experience being a caregiver to a partner with health issues and it can be demanding. It can be easy to overlook your needs. You seem like a smart guy so I'm sure you have figured that out. Ruthie is lucky to have you in her life and I'm hoping she feels better soon or is able to make adjustments to get the most out of her life. Doctors told me my wife would have to be placed in a care facility, they were wrong. She is still home and doing so much better. Miracles sometimes do happen. I feel a bit guilty having moved her up here, and not moving to a lower elevation. She doesn’t want to leave, she ( and I) both enjoy this strange environment…and since we only move less than two years ago, moving is an expense we can’t bear at the point. Since we don’t want to return to low altitude summer heat, we’d have to move north to a place, likely not in Colorado, where it cool at maybe 3-4,000 feet… At least the oxygen is covered by our Medicare… You shouldn't feel guilty, Inger. All those issues were taken into consideration prior to the move, as I recall you ruminating on the positives and negatives of each piece of property you two visited. 55 is correct that Ruthie is lucky to have you, even if you do walk around naked wearing a cleverly placed sombrero. And, thank your lucky stars that you are more hale and healthy than less. You know my history with dear Sarah, and I am so fortunate that I was able to pick her up and carry her whenever needed. I cannot imagine the difficulty if both of us would have had medical issues. I can also tell you that even at the very end, the two of us were still making memories. Sarah kept her sense of humor throughout her life, and I cherished each moment we had together to her last breath. Endings come soon enough, celebrate each day together. Even bad days have meaning and love and caring. Like the vows said, in sickness and in health. That sense of commitment and loyalty will serve you well and provide reassurance that your decisions are always correct at the time. Lastly, I just remembered that during college for a short time I worked driving a van delivering oxygen tanks to people's homes, apartments, and facilities. Some of those stops were to wonderful personalities, and it was a pleasure to speak time with them. Occasionally, they would offer me food or snacks. Sometimes, I would sit for a few minutes and watch their game show with them. I had not thought of that job for decades. You're a good man, Ingerson! |
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Post by rizzuto on Apr 30, 2024 14:26:02 GMT -5
I didn't watch, listen, or post and they got shutout. I'm in the clear. I'm not sure about that. What if you had watched, listened, or posted...  |
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Post by inger on May 1, 2024 8:28:39 GMT -5
I feel a bit guilty having moved her up here, and not moving to a lower elevation. She doesn’t want to leave, she ( and I) both enjoy this strange environment…and since we only move less than two years ago, moving is an expense we can’t bear at the point. Since we don’t want to return to low altitude summer heat, we’d have to move north to a place, likely not in Colorado, where it cool at maybe 3-4,000 feet… At least the oxygen is covered by our Medicare… You shouldn't feel guilty, Inger. All those issues were taken into consideration prior to the move, as I recall you ruminating on the positives and negatives of each piece of property you two visited. 55 is correct that Ruthie is lucky to have you, even if you do walk around naked wearing a cleverly placed sombrero. And, thank your lucky stars that you are more hale and healthy than less. You know my history with dear Sarah, and I am so fortunate that I was able to pick her up and carry her whenever needed. I cannot imagine the difficulty if both of us would have had medical issues. I can also tell you that even at the very end, the two of us were still making memories. Sarah kept her sense of humor throughout her life, and I cherished each moment we had together to her last breath. Endings come soon enough, celebrate each day together. Even bad days have meaning and love and caring. Like the vows said, in sickness and in health. That sense of commitment and loyalty will serve you well and provide reassurance that your decisions are always correct at the time. Lastly, I just remembered that during college for a short time I worked driving a van delivering oxygen tanks to people's homes, apartments, and facilities. Some of those stops were to wonderful personalities, and it was a pleasure to speak time with them. Occasionally, they would offer me food or snacks. Sometimes, I would sit for a few minutes and watch their game show with them. I had not thought of that job for decades. You're a good man, Ingerson! Ruthie reminded me yesterday that it was she that really liked this place more than I and wanted to move here. I remember when we found out we were going to have to spend about 8 grand on the water system and $4,500 to replace the lions share of the hvac ducting she was blaming herself and I had to tell her that we knew there were going to be some costs associated with the place. I guess I have to look inside at my own personal credo and live by the moment. There are no days, weeks, months, years, for they are not guaranteed. |
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